Rude guests who overstay their welcome

[MaggieTheCat]

Oh god.

We only had one guy over for Thanksgiving this year, at least one who we invited. Last night (day before TG) he asked if a friend of his could come too, who is also an acquaintance of mine and my husband's. Sure, no problem. We'll call the acquaintance "C."

Dinner was at 4, I told the guys they could come early. C showed up around 3:15 and is still here at 9:15. I have dropped numerous hints, including "I'm really tired so I'm going to go clean up the kitchen so I can get ready for bed soon" and he hasn't left. Yes, I know I should ask him to leave, but I'm too damn nice, plus my husband is "entertaining" him (by listening to him ramble on about some homebrew RPG stuff.)

In addition, he's done several things that I consider rather rude:

-He told my husband that one of the characters he cosplayed as a few years ago is stupid

-He told me the graham cracker crust on my pumpkin pie is too thick...and not in a constructive "I think the crust could be a little thinner next time" way... no, his wording was "What kind of crust is this? Graham cracker? It's way too thick, next time you should make it thinner."

-During dessert, he brought up politics and started arguing with our other guest about presidential candidates.

-He was surprised and disappointed when we didn't have any wine in the house, when I specifically told him last night that we don't drink and he could BYOB if he wanted

-When he offered to go get a bottle of wine, I told him my husband wouldn't drink it (he doesn't drink at all for various reasons), I would probably only have half a glass because I get sick easily, and our other guest didn't want any because he was driving. C's response to my husband not wanting to drink was "What's wrong with you?" and then "I have to take you out drinking sometime and I'll find something you like!" His response to our other guest not wanting any because he's driving is "Just one glass, man! You'll be fine!" despite our other guest saying he's a real light-weight

-After entertaining him for a few hours, my husband and I got up to clean up the kitchen and feed the cats. We spent about 30 minutes in the kitchen doing dishes, putting away leftovers, etc. and C stood there and rambled on about his homebrew RPG without offering to help in the slightest.

-He looked at me like I was crazy when I talked to my cats.

This guy needs to go. If he isn't out of here by 10 (half hour from now) I'm going to have to ask him to leave. He will not be invited back.

[blas87]

Oh Lord.

A couple summers ago, when I was still with my ex, he invited a friend to stay over at his house (*knowing* his mother and father hate the guy and would refuse to let him stay) and, not knowing him too well (the guy and his last gf had spent the night at my place before, and he had been on his best behavior back then) I said it would be alright if he stayed here. I didn't want him to spend the night in his truck.

I should have figured my kindness would be taken advantage of. He complained that I didn't have A/C (funny though, the next day or the day after that, my dad put my unit in), it was late at night and he kept messing with my windows and shades, he wouldn't walk lightly and I lived above a very tempermental old woman at the time, and he'd go outside to smoke literally every 5 minutes and wouldn't shut the door!

[bhskittykatt]

Gah. I hate people like that.

Sort of reminds me of a double-birthday party I threw for Hubs and BFF. It was supposed to be just a one-night affair, but it went on for over 72 hours! That wasn't too bad, though, 'cause it was a pretty chill group. Still, I had to spend way more than I planned to feed extra mouths for that long! Three days, two nights...eesh

[jackfaire]

Three days, two nights...eesh

Messed up. I have been at a few different parties that we turned into multiple day events.

One where I was dating a girl for 12 hours and I just remembered that and suddenly feel bad cuz I don't even remember her name.

Anyway I digress but yeah everytime the party expanded beyond the original parameters the rest of us at least tried to kick in our own money.

[Canarr]

Parties that are planned for one night but extend to several days are usually the coolest; but in such cases, decent guests should offer to shoulder part of the costs - make a run to the store to stock up on drinks, order a round of pizza and invite the hosts, that sort of thing. Being invited is nice; and if you can show that you're not a leech, you may even get invited another time.

[LexiaFira]

please tell me this "guest" left before 10 before being blunt was a forced action.
I have had guests stay late but only because their company was wanted and no one really had anywhere they HAD to be the next day and all agreed that after a certain point chipping in was happening. Or rather they brought extra supplies in advance.

wow. that wasn't completely rude, but that was very unacceptable guest behavior

[blas87]

Bumping this a bit because I feel bad for my boyfriend.

If I haven't mentioned before, he lives with his ma, but he actually pays part of the mortgage with her because of circumstances that happened when the house was built and some bs with her last boyfriend. So, in essence, if my bf wasn't helping her, she'd have lost the house by now.

Because he moved home at the last minute, when they built the place, they didn't insulate between the first floor and basement well, so he's never had ideal day sleeping conditions at that house, since he sleeps in the basement.

Anyway, getting sidetracked here.

Not too long after we started dating, his ma found some guy online from the next state over and started dating him. This dude is over 50, has no job, lives with his parents, but always has enough gas money (and gas is NOT cheap) to drive an hour and a half at least three days a week to stay at the house.

And this guy is creepy when he stays the night. The next day, bf's mom and little brother will leave for her to go to work, the kid to go to school, and the guy will stick around for what originally used to be just a few hours, until more recently, he'll just stay the entire day until his ma comes back home.

Granted, it's not like he's in someone's house with literally no one home, but my bf won't have anything to do with the guy (at first I thought he was just being his usual overly-introverted, people-hater self, but then I realized the dude is a douche and don't blame him for his opinion), so he's trying to sleep for work the next day or just because my bf will never do "normal" person hours, he's always asleep during the day, at least until afternoon.

The guy does all the chores all day while ma and the kid are gone. Some people laugh and think it's good for his ma that she found a guy that will clean her house for her, but he's annoying and loud about it.

Originally, bf was looking forward to switching shifts and going back to working during the week, because the guy was mostly spending weekends and just a day usually during the week at the house, so that way, when he switched shifts, he could be with me and not have to worry about sleeping while the idiot was over, and get proper sleep during the week for work.

Well, then the guy just started showing up more. And bf's ma NEVER lets him know that the guy is coming over. It's not like it's permission or anything, it's just courtesy, ya know? She'll text/call my bf to tell him that they are going somewhere or doing something, but she never lets him know that the idiot is coming over or staying.

So now we don't really know who has it worse, him with his mom's idiot boyfriend, or me with my downstairs neighbor's awful mother, the 5 foot stomping, door slamming gramma.