having to ruin it for all

[LexiaFira]

basically on my four day venture to see family the final day before having to leave my grandmother decided to throw a fit and ruin it for all.

I flew in on monday and flew out on thursday morning. she was there an entire WEEK BEFORE ME and got to spend christmas and then some with her family. EXCUSE ME? so just because we didn't go out when SHE WANTED her day was just ruined and she had to be a pita the rest of the day.

Basically that wednesday my mom had an appointment and a few hours at work. she didn't get back home until after 2pm. My grandmother knew this and decided to wait to be pissy. made a mess about the house and acted like she didn't know. She had ALL previous week to get her things done, yet the one day before I am to leave nooo. So when we do get out it takes forever to find a parking space, and lisa is cranky and fussy because she sees a play area she wants to go to. we all get out, i take daughter to play while mom and grandma go into one shop. it has been said that ok we don't find it there we go to the next store.

not even 15 minutes go by and they both come out, mom looks annoyed grandma looks pissed. I am then told we are leaving. Daughter gets mad because she isn't done playing. I think we are loading up to go to another shopping center. Oh no, once we get in grandma KNOWING why daughter is upset says lets just go home i'm mad, grandaughter is tired etc. I said no, she is mad because she wanted to play more and I THOUGHT we were going elsewhere. mom gave me a look and i zipped it.

why is it now our faults that miss queen of the universe is not happy. Over one damn item. That was my last day to spend time with ANYONE, thank you for ruining it because now i have to haul ass to get clothes washed and packed while you take your sweet time holding us all up.

this drives me nuts! and also why i keep my visits to grandma few and far between. gfd.

[LexiaFira]

sorry its confusing, it still angers me to think about it. grandma has been this way for the last few years like she is entitled to everything and my mom never says boo about it. i am done playing these games. Before leaving for the airport I told meemaw, "do not expect a visit next year. The last few times we were over our plans have always been ruined by you because you have to throw a shit fit. I am done." It made mom mad because then she would have to deal with her, i apologized today for that but seriously. I'm so done with this emotional blackmail

[anakhouri]

Good for you, she sounds like a real harpy. Why did she make you and the kid go shopping anyway, couldn't she run out by herself? And it can be a pain to take a child out shopping, but if you're going to do it you have to make concessions so everyone stays happy. I'd limit contact too.

[LexiaFira]

it was clothes/item shopping as she had promised to do for us. not food shopping.
it was an outlet mall. and she did not come in her own car and she is used to cars not mini suv's which mom has. and as she uses a cane to get around it would have made it worse.
grandma can be a harpy. she does try to care but her oblivious, only child, i get what i want attitude is old. and she is nice but having grown up mostly spoiled she does not think of others. its something she has to force herself to do. how can i explain.

i go out and what i see i think oh i like that but i know so and so would like this or that. it comes almost naturally to me, with her. oh i like this and that and etc. but until someone points it out she doesn't think of others.

i know she wants me to grow up and be this great housewife. fine. but not the way she wants sorry i don't play june cleaver (spelling) from leave it to beaver. and by that comment i mean she sent me a years subscription to southern living. i kind of like the magazine but its more a smack in the face of grow up and stop being a geek. IE stop being Lexia.

that gets me to the rant of who said growing up meant leaving behind the fun stuff. but i suppose having seen how effed up adults get i swore i would never be that. i did grow up, but i didn't stop having fun.