Disrespectful, Cockteasing women.

[Andara Bledin]

I've got lots of guy friends who are varying degrees of physical closeness that won't ever be more than just friends.

The idea that men and women can't be "just friends" is bullshit.

I don't disagree that some people can't handle the idea of someone of their gender interest being just a close friend, but to say that nobody can do that is just stupid and lazy.

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[Sleepwalker]

This thread has made pretty clear that your relationship with women is different from other men's. Men are people too, damnit, not robots.

As for cuddling, some people LIKE doing stuff like that even though it is not going to lead to wetting their dicks. Comparing it to cleaning your house is really freaking odd.

[Kheldarson]

I think cewfa's point was that in his mind cuddling is part of a relationship. It's something a boyfriend does...much like a girlfriend might do the housecleaning (although I question why his girlfriends are cleaning house to begin with...). And that's the main issue here. He equates cuddling with relationship. She does not. And while that's not an issue...it becomes one when she seems to have an expectation of something that's a relationship step for him, but for it not to be one.

Main point? If she wanted cuddling she should've talked to him and he should've had the chance to be upfront with him, and cewfa probably shouldn't have reacted to third party news and gone off on her. Just backing up would've been fine.

[shroo]

I'm a little bit confused, so I have a few questions:

1. Have you actually met her in real life? I know you said you were introduced, but that could have been online or through some other non-face-to-face communication.

2. Did she slack off, then suddenly start texting you again like nothing happened; or did she slack off texting you, you found out about her "cuddle" preference and then you confronted her?

3. Did she, at any time, say to you "Hey, I want to cuddle you in a sexay nightgown, try not to get hard."?

[Peppergirl]

Might be TMI for some, but when I was freshly out of a bad relationship and didn't want anything except FWB, I used that line alot about not wanting 'a relationship'.

As much as I hate the word cocktease, if she seriously made the comment that she wants to lounge around in lingerie and 'cuddle' with a straight guy and expect him not to be aroused? Yeah, sorry - that's what she is.

Like AA said, I never made it a habit to cuddle with my male friends, straight or otherwise. I'll concede that I'm not an affectionate person, though - so perhaps I'm not a good example. Seems odd to me, though.

[AdminAssistant]

I'll concede that I'm not an affectionate person, though - so perhaps I'm not a good example. Seems odd to me, though.

I'm a very affectionate person, and I still think it's weird to have a cuddle-fest with someone that you aren't dating and/or boning. Hell, if I were single, half-dressed, and cuddled up with a straight guy and he wasn't making a move...I would wonder what the hell was wrong.

[Peppergirl]

Hell, if I were single, half-dressed, and cuddled up with a straight guy and he wasn't making a move...I would wonder what the hell was wrong.

Me too!!

[Ginger Tea]

I'm a very affectionate person, and I still think it's weird to have a cuddle-fest with someone that you aren't dating and/or boning. Hell, if I were single, half-dressed, and cuddled up with a straight guy and he wasn't making a move...I would wonder what the hell was wrong.

Would you perchance happen to be blonde

I'm not sure if the OP meantioned she wanted a FWB or just not a relationship.
A mates and mates only scenareo and lounging around in skimpy underwear makes little sence.

Mind you after seeing Adam Ant live recently and the support act's vocalist comming on stage every once in a while for backing vocals wearing less and less to finish off in red bra and briefs with matching stockings and suspenders, well that kinda killed sexy underwear for me TYVM

[Lace Neil Singer]

I'm a very affectionate person, and I still think it's weird to have a cuddle-fest with someone that you aren't dating and/or boning. Hell, if I were single, half-dressed, and cuddled up with a straight guy and he wasn't making a move...I would wonder what the hell was wrong.

I'd assume he was either envisioning his girlf coming at him with a chainsaw, scared of women, or possibly gay. XD

Anyway, I'm not a very touchy feely person as a general rule tho I get a bit more so after a few drinks. I have hugged male and female friends without either gender thinking I want more than that.

[siead_lietrathua]

man this makes us seem weird over here. we've been known to cram 5 or 6 people onto a little couch in a mass, nonsexual cuddlepile.

[Greenday]

man this makes us seem weird over here. we've been known to cram 5 or 6 people onto a little couch in a mass, nonsexual cuddlepile.

While everyone is just in sexy underwear?

[Andara Bledin]

While everyone is just in sexy underwear?

I've known of a few different groups who did co-ed sleepovers.

As for sexy underwear, that needs to be defined better. What is sexy for some is not for others. And what is "underwear." If we're going to debate a topic, we need to define our terms.

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[Greenday]

I've known of a few different groups who did co-ed sleepovers.

As for sexy underwear, that needs to be defined better. What is sexy for some is not for others. And what is "underwear." If we're going to debate a topic, we need to define our terms.

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Were men and women cuddling and were the women wearing lingerie?

[Andara Bledin]

Yes. And men cuddling men. And women cuddling women. And the mix is usually about 25% gay, so that matters, too.

Again, need definitions. We need a line to denote where "functional" ends and "sexy" begins.

Because, to me, boxers are sexy. They're not marketed as sexy, I just find them to be so.

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[AdminAssistant]

I think the only defining that's needed is whether or not they're in their underwear at all. I'm not a terribly modest person (too much time spent in communal dressing rooms). But if I were to go to any kind of sleepover, I'm sleeping in pajamas. As in, stretch pants and a baggy t-shirt. Hell, I don't even like to go bra-less under the shirt when sleeping over at another's house.