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I'm so sorry for the inappropriate reference.
I hate people who seem to make a mental inventory or list of everything they've ever done for you (helped you pick up a new tire when you had a flat, brought your forgotten lunch to work for you, etc), seemingly so that any time you get into a disagreement or argument or things get tense.....they can throw it all back in your face. Even if they don't flat out say "Look at what all I do for you!", they seem to infer it at the heat of the moment.
As the title says, get off the cross already. I am the type of person who is NOT bossy. I never, ever, ever, ever, ever MADE anyone do ANY THING. I ask. Sometimes I beg. I never demand. Anyone who does something nice for me will always get a thank you, or usually a nice deed back. But I will never, ever take emotional blackmail like this seriously.
If you choose to do something for someone, that's nice. Always nice. If you give that person a ride to work every day (this is not the situation, just an example), and they never ever demand it or say you NEED to, you just choose to so they don't have to ask anyone else, you'd better not store that for when you get upset with that person just to throw it back at them.
My situation at hand is simply that I'm "not there enough" for someone. Well, no shit. I have the pratically opposite life of everyone else. I TRY to be available on my time off to chat with people, if it's urgent, I have no issue with a text or call when I'm sleeping during the week. HOWEVER, I cannot and will not change my schedule around just to make extra time for you, when I have already dedicated those times to running errands, working extra hours, or plans with family and other friends. I will not sit around the house waiting for you to contact me. If you want to get mad that I didn't get back from the bank until 5 minutes before your shift started and didn't get to chat, don't throw it back at me that you stay up until 1:30 am to talk to me on the phone on my breaks at work. I NEVER SAID you have to.
I hate people who seem to make a mental inventory or list of everything they've ever done for you (helped you pick up a new tire when you had a flat, brought your forgotten lunch to work for you, etc), seemingly so that any time you get into a disagreement or argument or things get tense.....they can throw it all back in your face. Even if they don't flat out say "Look at what all I do for you!", they seem to infer it at the heat of the moment.
As the title says, get off the cross already. I am the type of person who is NOT bossy. I never, ever, ever, ever, ever MADE anyone do ANY THING. I ask. Sometimes I beg. I never demand. Anyone who does something nice for me will always get a thank you, or usually a nice deed back. But I will never, ever take emotional blackmail like this seriously.
If you choose to do something for someone, that's nice. Always nice. If you give that person a ride to work every day (this is not the situation, just an example), and they never ever demand it or say you NEED to, you just choose to so they don't have to ask anyone else, you'd better not store that for when you get upset with that person just to throw it back at them.
My situation at hand is simply that I'm "not there enough" for someone. Well, no shit. I have the pratically opposite life of everyone else. I TRY to be available on my time off to chat with people, if it's urgent, I have no issue with a text or call when I'm sleeping during the week. HOWEVER, I cannot and will not change my schedule around just to make extra time for you, when I have already dedicated those times to running errands, working extra hours, or plans with family and other friends. I will not sit around the house waiting for you to contact me. If you want to get mad that I didn't get back from the bank until 5 minutes before your shift started and didn't get to chat, don't throw it back at me that you stay up until 1:30 am to talk to me on the phone on my breaks at work. I NEVER SAID you have to.
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