I hate moving!!! Also more reasons why people piss me off....

[Andara Bledin]

How is being forced to move to a house you can´t afford NYFP?

Or any of half a dozen other issues that have been posted here over the last year.

^-.-^

[blas87]

I can understand your frustration to a point, because I tend to be the voice of reason that gets ignored 99.9% of the time in my work and relationships, and then end up being the person who gets the cold shoulder or other passive-aggressive angry responses when the person goes ahead and does/doesn't do what I said to not do or do. Not that I know everything or tell people what to do, obviously I don't, but I just hate when I lightly suggest maybe we shouldn't do this or should do that, it goes ignored, the results I predicted occur, and it's all my fault anyway.

[Ree]

Your stories always make me picture you as that "Milton" dude from Office Space.

I found another "Milton" that put me in mind of you, though: http://miltonslife.com/2011/12/06/0060/

[DrFaroohk]

How is being forced to move to a house you can´t afford NYFP?

Because that's basically how everyone treats me too. "you did something knowing the possible consequences so suck it up and deal!" sounds good when coming from other people, but when they hear it back, goddamn.

[Andara Bledin]

That's how everybody treats you because that's how you let everybody treat you.

While their lack of regard for your opinion is shitty, you're continuing lack of presenting any sort of actual resistance to being forced to do things you don't want to do is approaching the level of reluctant consent.

^-.-^

[SkullKing]

Because that's basically how everyone treats me too. "you did something knowing the possible consequences so suck it up and deal!" sounds good when coming from other people, but when they hear it back, goddamn.

That still doesn´t explain how moving to a house you can´t afford(plus the two acts of moving themselves which you hate) is not your problem.

Just because you can say 'I told you so' when everything goes wrong doesn´t mean you don´t have to deal with the problem.

You really need to learn how to stand up for your self. Stop being a pushover.

You obviously need to change a deep-ingrained behavior pattern.

have you considered going to a psychologist?

[DrFaroohk]

I have! But I feel like they're just going to say "Lose weight, quit smoking, and get over yourself."

[SkullKing]

Maybe they will. Maybe they won´t.

And if they say it in a way that gives results, Great.

You need to stand up for yourself. not everyone can do it on their own. some people need help.

be it from friend, professionals, or strangers over the internet.

But if you don´t get yourself a backbone, All this problems you post about here will, at best, continue the way they are.

Odds are they may very well keep getting bigger.

[Ree]

I have! But I feel like they're just going to say "Lose weight, quit smoking, and get over yourself."

And...are those things you need to do?

I wonder, because you keep bringing it up in other threads as excuses not to be more assertive, or to not seek any type of counselling or therapy.

Is it possible you already have an idea of things you wish you could change in your life, but feel powerless and a little too overwhelmed to make those changes?