Let me explain.
Not that I don't appreciate a heads up or someone preventing a potentially embarrassing situation, but damn, can't some people just keep their hands to themselves or learn some tact and manners?
Growing up, my parents taught me that it was polite to let someone know if they had food on their face or whatnot, but to never just go ahead and touch someone or pull on their clothes to fix them without telling them. They always said, "Ask, 'May I fix this for you?" or just say "Excuse me, your tag is sticking out."
I know I pride myself on my appearance. But, I can't stop the wind. And occasionally, or...well, more often than that, I will walk inside from outside and there will be a hair or two or ten out of place. If I don't get to a mirror or just not care, I really HATE the nitpicker who has to stare at me, and make gestures about having hair sticking up. Or someone who just comes up behind me and flattens against the back of my head with their hand because sitting in the car made my hair staticy.
Or the person sitting at the break table nearby who has to immediately, the MOMENT I take a bite and start chewing, start wildly pointing at the side of their mouth, indicating I have a bit of mayo on my lip. Ok, I'm just gonna wipe while I just started chewing because it bothers you oh so much!
Or, the random person who just walks up behind me and fixes the tag sticking out of the back of my shirt, and usually makes a comment like "Geez, who dressed you today, child?"
To me, it's only ok for people I'm comfortable with to just go ahead and touch me like that. If someone just says "Oh, your tag is sticking out," that's fine.
If someone just wants to say "Your hair's a little messy, was it windy outside?" or "It looks like you might have an eyelash on your nose there," that's fine. If they ask permission because I can't see what's wrong, they can go ahead and try to fix it.
But. Don't. Pick. At. Me without asking, don't make gestures and stare and expect me to fix myself the moment you take offense to something mildly wrong with my appearance.
Stupid rant, I know. But I'm sick of rude people.
Not that I don't appreciate a heads up or someone preventing a potentially embarrassing situation, but damn, can't some people just keep their hands to themselves or learn some tact and manners?
Growing up, my parents taught me that it was polite to let someone know if they had food on their face or whatnot, but to never just go ahead and touch someone or pull on their clothes to fix them without telling them. They always said, "Ask, 'May I fix this for you?" or just say "Excuse me, your tag is sticking out."
I know I pride myself on my appearance. But, I can't stop the wind. And occasionally, or...well, more often than that, I will walk inside from outside and there will be a hair or two or ten out of place. If I don't get to a mirror or just not care, I really HATE the nitpicker who has to stare at me, and make gestures about having hair sticking up. Or someone who just comes up behind me and flattens against the back of my head with their hand because sitting in the car made my hair staticy.
Or the person sitting at the break table nearby who has to immediately, the MOMENT I take a bite and start chewing, start wildly pointing at the side of their mouth, indicating I have a bit of mayo on my lip. Ok, I'm just gonna wipe while I just started chewing because it bothers you oh so much!
Or, the random person who just walks up behind me and fixes the tag sticking out of the back of my shirt, and usually makes a comment like "Geez, who dressed you today, child?"
To me, it's only ok for people I'm comfortable with to just go ahead and touch me like that. If someone just says "Oh, your tag is sticking out," that's fine.
If someone just wants to say "Your hair's a little messy, was it windy outside?" or "It looks like you might have an eyelash on your nose there," that's fine. If they ask permission because I can't see what's wrong, they can go ahead and try to fix it.
But. Don't. Pick. At. Me without asking, don't make gestures and stare and expect me to fix myself the moment you take offense to something mildly wrong with my appearance.
Stupid rant, I know. But I'm sick of rude people.
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