I Have No Friends Left

[Greenday]

It's Friday night and I lay here on my bed doing absolutely nothing. 99% of the people I hung out with in high school (Admittedly that wasn't a lot of people in the first place) have moved away. I have three friends left in New Jersey. One is constantly busy and I don't blame her for that. She's one of my oldest friends and I know she's not just making up excuses. But the other two? One is always "tired" or "doesn't feel well" or "not in the mood". And when we have hung out, she just talks about how she misses her ex. The other never wants to go out anywhere. Hanging out with her usually just involves driving around aimlessly, which I'm fine with every now and then but we gotta do something else at some point. Shit gets boring just driving around and listening to her rant about some conservative issue.

At least if I was by my college I'd have people to go out with. A couple of my friends still live in that area that I graduated with. I'm friends with a bunch of seniors. I have friends who are only 30 minutes from there, but coming here is like a two hour drive which none of them seem interested in doing.

I've gone out alone before and no one says anything about it, but I feel like an alcoholic if I do it too often. But if I don't go out, then I just sit home and do nothing with no one. And since I'm now unemployed, I just sit at home all day long, cleaning up around the house by myself while I look for a new job.

I'm bored as hell and there's nothing I can do about it anymore.

[KnitShoni]

What do you do as far as hobbies? You might need to find something new to get into.

[Andara Bledin]

You could always go out on your own.

Do you have to have a buddy to be able to have fun?

^-.-^

[Ginger Tea]

He already stated that he does go out by himself, but it makes him feel like an alcohoic being in a pub just to drink.
I can see the reasoning there, if I'm paying pub prices, I really expect to be there for more than the booze.

I rarely go out anymore myself and my friend list has dwindled down to ziltch, since moving back here in 03 people whom I made friends with were students and moved on after graduation and I don't socialise with those at work.
I get on with the couple in the house I live in but don't hang out with them, she works at the pub I sometimes frequent and he last I heard was working nights.

Between work hours changing alot, one pub I liked with similar minded folk being hard to be served on the week end was understandable, but one night after a night class it took me ten minutes to be served when the only barmaid spent that time chatting to her BF cos the bar was quiet, sod the guy with money in his hand waiting on a drink. I was tempted to say "I've been waiting so long I forgot what I came here for."
Worked most weekends and only recently found out the only decent night club that played rock/indie/what I call decent music/etc closed for good, I think I made it there 3 times last year.

Also lets not forget the long story that is captain dickhead, I had already had stern words with him how he gets on my wick most times when out the last time I was out with him.

[blas87]

I feel for ya, GreenDay.

All of my friends are coworkers, whether I like it or not. My other ones, still act freshly 21, despite having kids or other responsibilities that should be put ahead of drinking, or they just refuse to act like adults.

Not like my coworkers are any more mature or less annoying, but they can find better things to do than be obsessed with drinking.

[Greenday]

What do you do as far as hobbies? You might need to find something new to get into.

I'm a bowler. Just went a few days ago and I'm just waiting for my thumb to heal up (Need to build up my calluses and I ripped some skin off my thumb so I can't bowl til that heals). I'm checking out leagues, but the only league starting soon is their bar league and I don't go to any of the bars that have entered. After that, summer leagues start in May which is a ways off.

[Bloodsoul]

The fact that I and my friends have all moved away was half the reason why I built a forum for my website. We had a nice game of Pathfinder going for a little while, until the DM got Writer's Block. None of my friends who own an Xbox 360 can afford LIVE, but I at least have one friend whom I can play Pokémon Black with (he's the one who actually gave me the DS and game to play).

Doesn't change the fact that it gets awful lonely some times.

[DrFaroohk]

I was always lonely, sitting by myself, watching TV and drinking or smoking. Sometimes I'd play games. But I was always bored and lazy and depressed and LONELY.

Then as fate would have it, I somehow got a life and started going out. Then I realized "Wait a minute...this sucks. I'd so rather be at home by myself."

Appreciate the alone time!

[blas87]

I miss some of my friends genuinely, even with their stupid immature quirks, but a lot of them have changed on levels I can't really relate to, because I haven't been married or had a kid yet, and don't plan on it anytime soon.

I'd love to make new friends and not have to rely soley on the relationship of idiots I work with, but at the same time, with my shift the way it is and how unpredictable my activity levels get on some weekends, I'd be afraid I wouldn't be very compatable with a lot of people or always able to commit to stuff. I usually stick to what I know I can do, and that's about it. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings by falling asleep on them at 4 pm.

[bara]

Green, you just got back from Afghanistan right?
I know what you mean, I've gone through something similar two times now. Once when I got back from Alaska and the second when I got back from Iraq.
You spend so much time away, remembering all the things you used to do with friends, but while our normal lives are on hold, theirs are not.
Its not meanness or intentional. But the reality of 'back home' just isn't the same that we remember. Friends move on. Could be because of work, relationships anything. As a result we find ourselves in that awkward situation as being the odd man out. Caught in a limbo of what we wanted and what happened. It sounds funny, but one of the biggest shocks was my mom changed her room around.
My best bud had a kid, another got divorced. Going from a more ordered military life style back to the sloppiness of civilian life sucks. Accountability was something I found noticeably absent in civie world.
People routinely show up late for work, they dont get shit done and they not only focus on but make up stupid lies and rumors that arent needed instead of focusing on important matters.

Hell, I got back from Iraq in 2004 and I will probably always have these issues. I was in the Army for 8 years.

[telecom_goddess]

Maybe it would get old if it was constant for me but I LOVE my alone time at home. Friday night, saturday night...whatever. I'm more comfy watching movies at home and drinking what I want whether it's coffee or whatever than I am being out somewhere else.

But by the same token I'm also pretty busy with work, and a social life built around a grange hall. Maybe you could join an organization, like a grange or whatever is nearby.

[Andara Bledin]

Maybe you could join an organization, like a grange or whatever is nearby.

Another option is to volunteer. Surely somebody in the are can use volunteers for something worthwhile.

^-.-^