"actions speak louder than words"

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See if I can elaborate on another's explanation in a way that will get through:

There are *three* settings, not two. Positive, negative, and neutral. Actions are more powerful than words.
So... how about some math? |action| = 5; |words| = 1. Minimum sum of 0 needed to avoid classification as racist.

Not making racist remarks = 0
Not performing racist actions = 0
Score: 0 = not racist

OK so far? Good. Now, the example you present of where someone would say "actions speak louder than words" would be either

Not making racist remarks = 0
Performing racist actions = -5
Score: -5 = racist

...or, perhaps

Making anti-racist remarks = 1
Performing racist actions = -5
Score: -4 racist (and, by the way, hypocrite as well.)

Now, the *way* you're trying to reverse that would look like this:

Making racist remarks = -1
Not performing racist actions = 0
Score: -1 racist

The correct analogous usage for "actions speak louder than words" would be, instead, something along the lines of an anti-racism activist who tells an inappropriate joke:

Making racist remarks = -1
Performing anti-racist actions = 5
Score: 4 not racist.

See the difference? (so to speak)