"If I don't get laid this weekend, I'm going to be pissed"

[Jaden]

I was hanging out with some of my drinking buddies last night, doing what drinking buddies do, and one of them started talking about his plans for the upcoming weekend. Apparently, he's taking a girl to some concert out of town or something, and he's got other stuff planned for them to have fun, which is cool, but they kinda just met not that long ago. Anyways, the problem with this was a statement to the effect of "If I don't get laid this weekend after all the money I'm spending, I'm gonna be pissed off." After I questioned the wisdom of such a sentiment, he responded with "She doesn't have to pay for anything, all I'm asking for is sex" etc.

Dude, I get it. She's a hot girl, you have penis feelings for her, you want to sleep with her. Fine. But she doesn't owe you anything, no matter how much money you spend on her. Spend money on her and show her a good time because you like her and you want to do so regardless of any "reward", not to get in her pants. Also, if that's your attitude, and all you're really looking for is some action, I doubt you've been honest with her about your intentions. I don't think she'd appreciate it too much if she knew that was all you were after, buddy.

[Rapscallion]

So, did he get laid?

Rapscallion

[Jaden]

Oh, I guess I didn't make that clear. It's next weekend that all this will be going on. He was just talking last night about his plans for next weekend. I'll probably find out how it went the weekend after that, when we're drinking together again

[Rapscallion]

Gotcha. By the way, all women are telepathic so she probably already knows what he wants.

Telepathic or the assumption is a pretty good one when dealing with younger blokes. Either works.

Rapscallion

[Greenday]

"Hm, he doesn't know me too well, but he wants to take me out to do all this stuff and pay for everything? Clearly there's no ulterior motive."

[powerboy]

Sadly some women are like that. But I doubt that she is one of those types. I have a friend like that, he does everything for women and when he don't get laid, he bitches about them.

[AdminAssistant]

I'm sure there's a more efficient way for your friend to exchange money for sex.

[BlaqueKatt]

"Hm, he doesn't know me too well, but he wants to take me out to do all this stuff and pay for everything? Clearly there's no ulterior motive."

I seem to run into the "let's see how long we can play this guy" types.

both attitudes are IMHO, very wrong.

I've witnessed very genuinely nice guys get so mentally and emotionally screwed up because of females that use men, and witnessed some decent girls get screwed up because of jerky males.

Why are so many people so fixated on what they can get, that they 100% refuse to see the actual human beings they're hurting?

[HYHYBT]

I don't think she'd appreciate it too much if she knew that was all you were after, buddy.

Is it possible that, although he wants and expects sex, it *isn't* all he's after?

[Peppergirl]

Heh.

Unless she's incredibly naive, she's probably got his number.

And, not for nothin' - this kind of shit is why so many women think you men are all shitbags.

(Relax, I'm just playing)

[Andara Bledin]

I despise this sort of game playing.

If people weren't so wrapped up in playing this sort of game and actually, oh, I don't know, communicated what they wanted in plain language with one another, there'd be a lot fewer bad breakups going on.

And if I ever ran into someone who made the "man, with all the money I'm laying out, I'd better get sex in return" comment, I'd totally ask him if he wanted a girlfriend or a whore.

^-.-^

[Greenday]

Is it possible that, although he wants and expects sex, it *isn't* all he's after?

Then why did he say he expects to get laid?

[Jaden]

It's entirely possible that she knows all he really wants is sex, but the fact of the matter is he certainly couldn't have made his intentions clear - if he had, why would he wonder if he's going to get any this weekend? So, even if she knows, neither of them is telling the other, so it's still stupid game-playing. I don't think he's after anything but sex. I've known him for a really long time, and can tell when he's actually interested in a girl as opposed to when he's just physically attracted to her. He's not really a bad guy, just really immature in some ways.

"Hm, he doesn't know me too well, but he wants to take me out to do all this stuff and pay for everything? Clearly there's no ulterior motive."

I think this is a really cynical attitude to take. I've done things like this for girls before without any ulterior motive beyond wanting to build a relationship with her. Sex? Sure, I'd like for it to happen eventually in a relationship, but not until we're both ready. I don't expect it at any particular time. At any rate, I always try to make my intentions clear with a girl in any situation, and that's my main problem with this situation, just because I think it's immature game-playing.

[Hyena Dandy]

Then why did he say he expects to get laid?

He could have said it jokingly. I mean, based on the fact that there's a thread, he probably didn't. But I can totally see someone saying as a hyperbole. He's saying he hopes she appreciates it, by overstating what he expects.

[Jaden]

He could have said it jokingly. I mean, based on the fact that there's a thread, he probably didn't. But I can totally see someone saying as a hyperbole. He's saying he hopes she appreciates it, by overstating what he expects.

Yeah, I wouldn't have made a post about it otherwise. I've known him for ten years, and we talk a lot. He was being serious. We were all talking about various girl troubles at the time, and uhh, that was his, although I don't think it really counts as being too much of a "problem" Frankly, having enough money and good fortune to have a cool weekend like this with a cute girl would make me happy enough right now.