"Dress Codes" for Weddings/Broadway Shows

[bex1218]

My Great Uncle got married last year. I still had some "girly" clothes before I changed my style totally (all men's now ). I had a nice blue tye-dye looking shirt that I though would look fine. And had work pants (only slightly ripped). My mom, aunt and grandmother started a bitchfest on how I "Shouldn't wear tye-dye to a wedding" Is there seriously a rule for what to wear and not wear at a wedding? No? Didn't think so. Get off me already. I wore whatever they wanted me to (I looked rediculous) to keep them happy. Halfway through the reception, I changed pants . They about had a heart attack.

Now for Broadway. People wear jeans and a nice shirt to shows all the time. My mom actually was on my side for this. My grandmother hated it. She is the old school dress nice type. She hasn't really gotten with the times, at least for teens to 20 something year old's. She means well, but I wonder how she's gonna react when I come up there with what I have to wear. I have khakis and other pants to wear that are finally not ripped (yay for men's heights on clothes, though I wish there was one a length shorter), and I have nice shirts I wear to work.

I just hate how my family dictates what I should wear, or at least how what I have is never good enough for them. Hello! Broke retail worker here!!! I bring what I have.

[Greenday]

I don't think there's a dress code for broadway shows these days, but as for weddings, yes, there's a dress code. If I'm going to a wedding, I'm wearing a suit. That's for a standard wedding. Dressing anything less for a church-type wedding would be disrespectful. It's a formal occasion. Unless stated otherwise, wedding dress is formal.

[blas87]

Well, it'll get me disowned, or just having an empty church, but if I ever get married, I will be enforcing a dress code, hoping to ward off the rednecks and my white trash relatives. I already know my mother will find a way to sneak invite anyone related to us out of "family and obligation", so this is the only way. And if anyone shows up wearing any of the following, I'll kill them:

Absolutely no cowboy hats, cowboy boots, hankies, flannel, blaze orange, belt buckles, sweat pants, ripped or stained clothes, or oversized Tweety Bird/Grumpy shirts, unwashed or out of control hair, smelling bad or like booze.

[Andara Bledin]

Well, a wedding is specifically a formal affair, unless the bride and groom have decided otherwise. To choose to wear something that's even "only slightly ripped" shows a lack of respect, I think.

Going out to shows, however, is a lot less straightforward. While I prefer to dress nicer when going out to a fancier engagement, I don't really care if other people would rather look like slobs.

^-.-^

[siead_lietrathua]

weddings usually let you know the type of attire on the invitation, either through outright saying it or implying through the art on the invite.
shows vary. if you're talking the movies or something then meh, informals good to go. but when it comes to going to live theater (and this may just be the small-town-hick in me), it's an occasion to dress up. not so much for the sake of looking proper, but more that it makes the night just a smidge more special feeling.

[bex1218]

There was no code for their wedding, actually any of my families weddings on both sides. Whoops forgot to mention that *runs away*. Well, the bride's bro was wearing jeans and flannel shirt. Pissed me off a bit. But again, all my extra money went into this trip. Driving from Florida to North Carolina adds up a lot of gas and food. Thankfully my grandparents paid for the hotel. It woulda been hella expensive. So I couldn't get new pants. But I mean the rips weren't noticeable unless u were really close to me. The shirt in question was nice enough for formal or casual wear. They just hated the fact it was tye-dye. I never heard of not wearing tye-dye to a wedding. No one taught me that it was dirsrespectful.

If I ever get married (huge if), I would just say screw it, people can wear whatever they want. Actually, prolly just have a get together somewhere. I hate being fancy and putting that much money into something that will last a couple hrs. But thats just me.

[kiwi]

Ripped pants and tye dye are not okay for a wedding in my book.

People turned up to my brothers wedding in shorts, t shirts and jeans. It was really disrespectful. They had the reception at an art gallery for goodness sake, sent out formal invitations (you take your dress code from the formality of the invitation if it's not directly stated) and had the ceremony at a very nice private house overlooking the ocean. The families and wedding party were in suits and formal dresses, the under dressed people looked like they could be shopping at the mall.

Broadway shows are not as big a deal imo. You are a paying customers.

[HYHYBT]

I know the biggest rule is "don't outshine the bride." Other than that.... well, whatever level of formality everyone else going is wearing, or suitable to the location.

[Gravekeeper]

"Don't wear tye-dye to a wedding" doesn't seem like something you'd have to specifically be taught to be bluntly honest. Its a formal event by default. -.-

[bex1218]

I wish I had a pic of the shirt. It wasn't like obnoxious. It was a dark bue shirt with some frilly stuff on the sleeves and collar and black was spread through it. But, still. I was taught as long as it was nice (yeah, ripped pants weren't, but if you can't expect much out of me, Goodwill or the like never has my sizes so lets not go with that. Now a days, I try to keep my pants from ripping so something like this never happens, or I will suck it up and buy new ones.). It never occured to me tye-dye would be a no-no. No one asked me what I was gonna bring, to tell me so. Otherwise I would have found a plain black shirt to wear.

[Nyoibo]

Rule of thumb, unless there's a dress code for a wedding, neat casual or semi-formal, for broadway, unless it's a premier neat casual would be fine.

[blas87]

I would never expect anyone to drain their bank account or treat it like a Catillion or anything, I just expect a lot more respect than what I usually see at weddings, as far as how people dress themselves. How they behave is also another big one, but that's a different topic.

I just take a huge issue with someone who comes right to a wedding fresh off the farm, or dresses like they are going to a rodeo......or as slobby as they do when they go to Walmart for a gallon of milk.

[Andara Bledin]

There's a wide range of what is "tie dyed."

For instance, when you say tie dyed, most people think of things like this shirt.

You have to specify if the top was more like this (did you see the price on that thing? ) or this, which looks like it was done with a different dyeing process.

^-.-^

[anakhouri]

I was thinking of a shirt more like the ones above, not like hippie tie-dye. I believe that is appropriate.

As for ripped pants though...anyone can fix a rip, even temporarily, you don't have to know how to sew even.

[bex1218]

Yeah. It was a dressier shirt like the third one that was shown. Just had a black lace type thing. Def not hippie. It was tasteful for what it was. My stepmom got it for me for Christmas. Since I drastically changed my "style" I sold it on ebay. Lesson learned around them for weddings, though. If one ever happens again.

Now the Broadway thing annoys me more cause of how more relaxed it is. I wonder if she will have complaints with what I have now. Though, there was one time I was at a baseball game and then had a show to go to afterwards. I was all sweaty and in shorts and a t-shirt. She enjoyed that so much . I of course coulda changed at a restroom, but thats just a huge pain.