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  • No, you can't live here for the rest of your... stay??

    Just a quick rant.

    My mate here needed someplace to crash after he quit his job, and is waiting for his mate to move down from Shanghai, so they can start their online sales business (dodgey story there anyway... I mean, a - what do those 3 boys know about women's clothing? and b - his mate knows how to do an exact copy of somebody's website.... no red flags there!). He is here as a favour to him - ie, no rent! (which, obviously, for a short-term stay, is not even an issue... but in the future, it would be)

    But, for all of you who love living alone, you know exactly what I mean.. about that nice bit of food you were expecting to come home to eat - which is gone!

    But, what is getting to me, is that I have things which I use (or have a use for), which get thrown out, or put to uses which they shouldn't be, or damaged...

    And, the feeling of having to clean up after he has already cleaned up!!! You know, when they make a mess when trying to not make a mess???

    And, OMG, the simple things that just don't enter into his head! When you mop the floor, how about using hot water??? And how about the floor cleaner stuff? When you finish cooking, try not to leave the sink a complete mess!

    I know, part of this comes from his (relative) age... and the other because he is a boy. Now, don't attack me here, this really is a cultural thing (for both). In China, with their One-Child Policy, it means that boys are growing up as serious mummy's boys.. never having to lift a finger to do a thing! They are treated like those precious snowflakes we keep hearing about! So, at 25 years old, he's still learning to do things the way we'd expect someone else to know from more than a decade previous!


    Gods, I hope his mate moves down soon, and he moves out!


    (granted, his cooking is getting better! And, he does the washing regularly.... I think that makes up for being on my internet for 10 hours a day, just chatting to girls all over the world!)
    ZOE: Preacher, don't the Bible got some pretty specific things to say about killing?

    SHEPHERD BOOK: Quite specific. It is, however, Somewhat fuzzier on the subject of kneecaps.

  • #2
    I don't think its just the boys. >.>

    My ex was from China, came over here for university. She would not even close cupboard doors or drawers after being in the kitchen. You'd think a poltergeist had been through if you walked into the kitchen after her. In retrospec I don't think she ever cleaned anything. At all. Like....not a single thing. Ever.

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    • #3
      Be happy that they haven't decided that since they've been there long enough and apparently now live there, they can bring in more people to also live in the apartment.

      Eugh... Still sends a shiver down my spine.

      Edit: Sorry for the jerk-ness of the post. the time I was remembering just was bit of a stressful time. I'll talk about it when I have the time.
      Last edited by HotelKatz; 04-21-2012, 12:15 PM.

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      • #4
        Do you expect your friend to move soon? As in SOON? Because it's amazing how something always comes up and your freeloader will stay on and on and on.

        You spend more on food.
        You spend more on utilities.
        You start being a free cab service, so you start spending your own time and gas money.

        And if's it's a small apartment, you have NO WHERE to go if you just need some downtime. I love my friends, don't get me wrong, but I like just vegging out and not having to interact with anyone. Difficult to do when someone is occupying my space.

        It may seem a little late in the game at this point, but you need to set some ground rules about those things that really bug you. You also need to give him a date when you expect him to be out. Trust me, this will save you from trying to hide the body if his plans fall through and he wants to stay longer.

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        • #5
          Irrelevant update (but since you asked...).

          Yes, he is actually leaving

          He's going to move half his stuff today, and then the rest and be out, tomorrow!

          It was originally only for a couple of weeks (max), and it's been... a couple of weeks. So, all good. Yes, I was worried...

          And, yes, it is a fairly small apartment... but, he was also going to my local hangout (you know, the place I go to relax and just chill out with some expat friends).

          Anyway, all good.... and not terribly bad either
          ZOE: Preacher, don't the Bible got some pretty specific things to say about killing?

          SHEPHERD BOOK: Quite specific. It is, however, Somewhat fuzzier on the subject of kneecaps.

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          • #6
            Originally posted by bainsidhe View Post
            Do you expect your friend to move soon? As in SOON? Because it's amazing how something always comes up and your freeloader will stay on and on and on.

            You spend more on food.
            You spend more on utilities.
            You start being a free cab service, so you start spending your own time and gas money.
            ...and this is *exactly* why I didn't let my brother move in with me when he started bitching and moaning about how living at my mom's "sucked." I knew exactly what would happen. I'd see my costs of living go up while he sat on his ass. Sorry, but fuck that shit. If he moved in, he'd be paying the fucking mortgage

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            • #7
              Yeah. It's been nearly half a decade since I last lived with my brother, and here he is, doing the same exact shit. If it weren't for the fact that his girlfriend was very pregnant, I would have flat out refused. But, since he's done jack and shit to pay for his room and all he's really done is make the food that we buy and we all eat, we've given notice that it has to change or he has to go. The 3-day Pay or Quit notice gets handed over next month.

              ^-.-^
              Faith is about what you do. It's about aspiring to be better and nobler and kinder than you are. It's about making sacrifices for the good of others. - Dresden

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              • #8
                Originally posted by Andara Bledin View Post
                Yeah. It's been nearly half a decade since I last lived with my brother, and here he is, doing the same exact shit. If it weren't for the fact that his girlfriend was very pregnant, I would have flat out refused. But, since he's done jack and shit to pay for his room and all he's really done is make the food that we buy and we all eat, we've given notice that it has to change or he has to go. The 3-day Pay or Quit notice gets handed over next month.

                ^-.-^
                Kick him out.. let her stay
                ZOE: Preacher, don't the Bible got some pretty specific things to say about killing?

                SHEPHERD BOOK: Quite specific. It is, however, Somewhat fuzzier on the subject of kneecaps.

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                • #9
                  Funny thing: We've already told her she's welcome to keep living here. She's actually willing to do work around the house, cooking, cleaning, etc, without it being a fight or requiring nagging to get done. She'd essentially end up like a live-in maid, which is fine with us if she's willing to go for it.

                  ^-.-^
                  Faith is about what you do. It's about aspiring to be better and nobler and kinder than you are. It's about making sacrifices for the good of others. - Dresden

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by Andara Bledin View Post
                    Funny thing: We've already told her she's welcome to keep living here. She's actually willing to do work around the house, cooking, cleaning, etc, without it being a fight or requiring nagging to get done. She'd essentially end up like a live-in maid, which is fine with us if she's willing to go for it.

                    ^-.-^
                    Not that I know anything about your brother, but I'd guess that he'd think you were bluffing if you gave him that ultimatum (while she still stayed).

                    Up until the point you actually do kick him out...

                    How is he supposed to teach his child responsibility if he's not prepared to take any himself?
                    ZOE: Preacher, don't the Bible got some pretty specific things to say about killing?

                    SHEPHERD BOOK: Quite specific. It is, however, Somewhat fuzzier on the subject of kneecaps.

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by Slytovhand View Post

                      How is he supposed to teach his child responsibility if he's not prepared to take any himself?

                      Simple, He'll depend on someone else doing it for him.

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                      • #12
                        Well, delightfully, it's become a moot point. We have a cousin a couple of states over who flips houses for a living. Does quite well at it because he actually takes pride in doing a good job. Anyway, he has use for a guy whose good with his hands, has a license, and isn't afraid to get sweaty. So, he'll be out of here before the month is up. She may stay a bit to get her own stuff squared away, which is fine with us.

                        ^-.-^
                        Faith is about what you do. It's about aspiring to be better and nobler and kinder than you are. It's about making sacrifices for the good of others. - Dresden

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