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For the last *pretends to check calendar* 11 years since I had a kid every time I mention a trip idea, movie I want to go see, anything that involves going out and about I hear the line, "Oh yeah that would be great but you know kids"
The only time that line is appropriate is if I just said, "Hey let's go to a bar"
If I said, take a trip, go see a movie (not rated R), etc where a kid would not be a hindrance since you know they are capable of enjoying it too can you at least do me the favor of not using the kid as an excuse not to go or telling me how I can't possibly go because I have a kid.
Even worse is something my ex wife and other friends will do. I mention that I am going with friends to see (x) movie and suddenly it's "Oh so your taking your daughter to see it right?" no "Oh so your seeing it first to make sure it's okay for her and then taking her right" uhm again no.
"But" see get this my daughter has expressed no interest in said movie nor knows anything about it. She would go see it to make me happy but I am not going to drag her to a movie she doesn't want to see for that reason when there are activities/movies that she does want.
Stop assuming I am a horrible dad if my every single activity doesn't automatically include my daughter.
That's like saying I am a horrible dad because I don't insist on playing with her and her friends. Guess what you don't have to do everything together.
The only time that line is appropriate is if I just said, "Hey let's go to a bar"
If I said, take a trip, go see a movie (not rated R), etc where a kid would not be a hindrance since you know they are capable of enjoying it too can you at least do me the favor of not using the kid as an excuse not to go or telling me how I can't possibly go because I have a kid.
Even worse is something my ex wife and other friends will do. I mention that I am going with friends to see (x) movie and suddenly it's "Oh so your taking your daughter to see it right?" no "Oh so your seeing it first to make sure it's okay for her and then taking her right" uhm again no.
"But" see get this my daughter has expressed no interest in said movie nor knows anything about it. She would go see it to make me happy but I am not going to drag her to a movie she doesn't want to see for that reason when there are activities/movies that she does want.
Stop assuming I am a horrible dad if my every single activity doesn't automatically include my daughter.
That's like saying I am a horrible dad because I don't insist on playing with her and her friends. Guess what you don't have to do everything together.
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