Gimme my license back

[Nekojin]

Its not how you said it--its what you said.

Really, it's both. There's a significant gap between wishing some nebulous karmic retribution on someone, and wishing specific brutal and/or painful nastiness on someone.

An eye for an eye leaves both sides blind.

[Andara Bledin]

Yes lets focus on the wrong part of the statement.

So, did you make that repulsive comment to distract from the fact that in the eyes of the law you're a selfish deadbeat so they took your license away to try to force you to play by the rules?

Talk about focusing on the wrong part of the statement.

^-.-^

[Greenday]

I honestly didn't see a right side of the statement. Neither part is the way to go about things.

[bainsidhe]

So, did you make that repulsive comment to distract from the fact that in the eyes of the law you're a selfish deadbeat so they took your license away to try to force you to play by the rules?

This is what I was thinking. If others get distracted and focus on the rant instead of the original topic, we are accused of derailing the thread. I've seen it happen.

[Jaden]

Hypothetically, pretend I never made the AIDS comment and instead said "I'm gonna go find all those fuckers, burn their houses down and murder their kids."

Yeah, that's what I thought.

I like how you said this like you made some profound point.

Ok, but all sarcasm aside...Dude, I don't know you. I've only been back for a couple of months, but I still checked in on this place from time to time, and I've read stuff you've written over the years, and stuff that people have written in response to you. I know I'm not the first person to say this, but please, get help. I don't mean that in a funny or snarky way. I mean seriously, please seek some sort of psychiatric help, because you're just making the prison you've built for yourself more and more secure.

[Ree]

Well, then, let's focus on the 'right part".
In the eyes of the law, because DrF has not fulfilled the rules of the support decree as they were set down by the court, he is considered a deadbeat, as nasty as that sounds.

The fact that he does give money for his child when he actually has it to give is probably a lot better than some of the sperm donors out there who could care less if their child is looked after.

As I said before though, lump sums once a year are not considered support for a child, as their needs are an ongoing thing.
The support is NOT for the mother. It is for the child that the man has fathered.

The way the custodial parent is behaving, or has behaved in the past is totally irrelevant to the court when it comes to making sure the needs of the child are met, and that the parent has enough money to provide suitable clothing, food and shelter.

Support is not a reward to the parent for being a model citizen.
It is for the child.

[DrFaroohk]

Well after much contemplation and reflection I have channeled my rage into a productive manner, and Monday morning the people at social services, as well as my ex-wife, are going to have a buttload of paperwork to do.

Yay for wasting taxpayer's time!

[Andara Bledin]

Right. Because we all know that they didn't waste any time at all dealing with your lack of compliance, and the whole suspended license happened automagically.

^-.-^

[DrFaroohk]

Well nobody forced them to do any of that. They don't get to claim it's a waste when it's something they chose to do.

[blas87]

Around here, they usually just throw guys in jail for not paying child support, if actually going in and garnishing their paychecks/bank accounts isn't working. I guess I really can't see the correlation between driving and child support. I myself am more in favor of revoking licenses for stuff that is due to negligence while driving.

Although, around here, suspending/revoking licenses accomplishes nothing, because people like my ex are proof that people will keep driving until they are behind bars for life for the irresponsible things they've done while driving.

[woodensunshine]

You know, I'm glad that you weren't my father. My father paid his child support every week and way more than he should have been paying. Instead of living on his own, he lived with his parents for decades due to paying way more for child support than the court ordered him to.

Make some sacrifices. Maybe you can't drink every weekend, boo hoo. You had sex, you produced offspring, you couldn't stay together, YOU pay.

[DrFaroohk]

You know, I'm glad that you weren't my father. My father paid his child support every week and way more than he should have been paying. Instead of living on his own, he lived with his parents for decades due to paying way more for child support than the court ordered him to.

Make some sacrifices. Maybe you can't drink every weekend, boo hoo. You had sex, you produced offspring, you couldn't stay together, YOU pay.

I do pay. Every year. How about, SHE chose to throw a wrench in every time I was with my kid, SHE chose to not let me see him and drag this into Nasty Court, SHE chose to leave the state and strip me of every right she could, so SHE gets to take her once a year payment and budget it out as she sees fit.

Oh wait, no. The "you chose this" only applies to men. Sorry, I forgot.

Edit: Btw, that's a crappy strawman. I don't drink every weekend, or hardly at all. You lose.

[woodensunshine]

You're right.

But, if you were the one taking care of your child and she was posting this, I would tell her the same thing.

Having a child means sacrifices, take a little money out of your paycheck each week and file it away in a separate bank account for your (ex?) wife. That way, there is a payment posted date and she can't lie to the courts. With that, you won't have your license taken away.

[linguist]

so SHE gets to take her once a year payment and budget it out as she sees fit.

you could just as easily take that once a year tax return, put it into an escrow account, then parcel it out weekly or monthly, however your agreement is set up. then you wouldn't be in violation and you'd still have your license.

[DrFaroohk]

you could just as easily take that once a year tax return, put it into an escrow account, then parcel it out weekly or monthly, however your agreement is set up. then you wouldn't be in violation and you'd still have your license.

So could she.