no I am NOT disabled

[KellyHabersham]

Background story - had a disagreement of sorts with my mom last week, I sent my sister a text about it, and mentioned that it was getting frustrating living at home. (exact details aren't important, just that I knew Patty would understand because this sort of thing is why she's greatly lessened contact with our mom)

So this afternoon, my daughter tells me that Patty posted about it on Facebook, and among other things, she mentioned my having Asperger's Syndrome, and referred to me as disabled.

And this bothers me for a number of reasons - one being that I have never been officially diagnosed with Asperger's, and while Patty means well, she is NOT qualified to make that sort of diagnosis, and sometimes she talks about my issues in a way which makes me sound more "special needs" than I really am. (and then people who don't know me well get the wrong impression.......one of her Facebook friends made a comment of that nature)

[Andara Bledin]

First off, your sister really has a problem understanding other people's boundaries and airing things that shouldn't be aired.

That said, being disabled should not be something people shy away from. There is a culture where not being physically perfect is seen as meaning that you're less of a human, and we know this isn't even remotely true.

^-.-^

[KellyHabersham]

Unfortunately, that's very true about Patty - she's a great person, but doesn't always seem to know when personal info should/should not be shared. (which is why she's not on my Facebook friends list)

About the disability thing, my main gripe is that her post was worded so it sounded like I'm a helpless disabled person who's in an abusive situation, which is not true.