wimpy excuses

[LexiaFira]

specifically an excuse of not liking doing something to avoid doing it.
i don't like it either but i still do it. example not liking to make calls or take calls from non family members. i dislike it either but i have enough social skills to fake niceness and i still do it because I HAVE TO.

or not liking doing dishes, so? i hate doing dishes some days but we have just enough dishes that we cannot go two days without doing them or we have no clean dishes to eat from.

my husband and some siblings do this...really. the phrase my mom used to say comes to mind. you may not like it but it has to be done. i don't like it either but if you nor I did it, the mess gets worse. (or whatever the chore or task was)

[anakhouri]

Yep, I totally get that. I got so I do the things I dislike first, so I have something to look forward. Like I exercise before breakfast. I eat my green beans before the carbs. I clean behind the toilet before I bake a cake (I wash my hands in between of course).

I was always told "Everyone has things they don't like but they still have to do them." I think this should be standard parenting material.

[HYHYBT]

Well, it depends. WHY does talking on the phone need to be done? Is the communication actually necessary, and is it impossible to get the same ideas across by any other method?

[DrFaroohk]

Some people have the attitude that everyone must be doing things they don't like all the time.

I hardly do anything anymore that I don't want to do. No point. Unless of course I HAVE TO. But HAVE TO can have different meanings. Do I "Have to" as in, the world will explode if I don't? Then fuck it.

I don't see why people can't compromise either. My wife hates doing dishes, I do dishes. I don't like dealing with our various pets, so she does that. Easy.

[LexiaFira]

its not just the chores or the phone, he often throws this excuse out of i don't like doing this because. his hands aren't broken, neither are mine. i don't like doing it either but i do it. ie changing a dirty diaper, picking up hairballs, dealing with the spastic elderly dog, (he is so lovey but he has bladder problems and when he whines to go out its right now or play clean up) or the best one yet: i don't like going out to have to socialize. neither do I! but i can at least give common courtesy of hi, hello how are you thank you goobye etc and go about my day. if i have to go out of the house its because we need groceries or hey i want to take daughter to the park.

Well, it depends. WHY does talking on the phone need to be done? Is the communication actually necessary, and is it impossible to get the same ideas across by any other method?

he has to call for the bills, i am not authorized and that is fine with me. the only thing i am authorized for the bills is if hubs or dad died i can tell them this otherwise i cannot do much besides update info.

he is the primary on the insurance and insurance is being a pain about one of my medications and they need HIS authorization since i am the dependent (unemployed still) i can call to check, authorize my doctor and update MY info. and get general insurance info, thats it. I am aware i should change this but for now...i can't UNTIL HE CALLS PEOPLE and MAKES IT SO

and Farhook i will cut you off right now.
by HAVE to meaning it HAS to get done because no one else will do it, that is your assigned chore and mine. because the agreement is as such these are my chores because i AGREED to do them, and these are yours. help can be asked for if needed and change ups etc.
best routine, I get up follow my schedule, start laundry if needed, and vacuum if its a vacuum day. hubs comes home, unloads clean dishes loads dirty if needed, cleans litter boxes and takes out diaper bag from diaper genie if needed. the rest are MY chores to do as i stay at home. If i don't do them no one else will unless i am incapacitated or ask very nicely. (i rarely will because i am stubborn that way)

now that being said i don't HAVE to get it done ASAP but before either nap time or days end. some chores have to be done certain days due to schedules of everyone. IE i can't vacuum at 5-6pm, news is on. (vacuum = entire house) the chores so much are not an issue as it is, i am tired of him throwing out i don't like doing it because of reason.
right so i am just supposed to do it all? yeah no. and trust me i have tried compromise, if compromise meant i have the authorization fine.