You should be happy you're single...

[I8DaCookie]

In honor of Singles Awareness Day, I thought I would rant about one of the most common phrases my non-single friends always tell me when I go on about being single.

"Oh, relationships are more trouble than they're worth. You should be happy you're single."

Easy for you to say, YOU'RE IN ONE!!!

I'm (almost) 26 years old and I've only been in one relationship that started of great and ended horribly. Almost all of my friends have a SO but what I get all the time is that I should be happy that I'm single.

So here's to you those friends who are in a relationship...you can go and shove it up your arse!

[the_std]

Here, here! I completely agree. I don't understand how so many people can be so insensitive about this kind of thing, yet if they were the ones who were single on this day, they'd be bawling and moping and carrying on like no one's business. Mmm, hypocrisy.

[protege]

Another set of phrases I can't stand are "there's someone for everyone" or "you'll find someone." My reply? Fuck you. Let's see now, I've been turned down because I don't drive the "right" car, because of my appearance, because my family's not rich, etc. So no, there isn't anyone for me. Doesn't matter, since I've given up on the whole idea.

[Greenday]

I hate being told by people "It's better to be single anyway." My normal response is, "If it's so much better, why are you in one?" Usually shuts them up.

[AdminAssistant]

Well, if it makes you feel any better, BoyThing will probably be going out with one of his buddies tonight, so I'll probably be doing my usual 'single on V-day' ritual anyway - pizza, booze, and Kill Bill.

[Greenday]

Well, if it makes you feel any better, BoyThing will probably be going out with one of his buddies tonight, so I'll probably be doing my usual 'single on V-day' ritual anyway - pizza, booze, and Kill Bill.

Ooh! Pizza, booze, and Kill Bill? I want in!

[Sylvia727]

Fortunately, none of my friends are that insensitive...but acquaintances are.

Random Loser: "So, what are you doing for Valentine's Day?"
Me: "Nothing really. Catching up on homework while I have the apartment to myself."
Random Loser: "Oh, I'm so sorry!" or "Well, that's too bad. You'll find someone."
Me: "...? ...! ..."

Why are you upset that I'm single? It's none of your business. If you were actually my friend, you'd know I don't have a significant other and I don't have the time or the energy for one right now. "Relationships are more trouble than they're worth"? I already know that, that's why I'm not in one right now. All that saying does is make you look like a hypocritical twerp.

[Boozy]

I suspect people are saying these things to you guys in a misguided and ignorant attempt to make you feel better.

If these people are your friends, then you should tell them that they are actually making you feel worse! They're trying to be good friends; help them out and tell them what you need to hear (or just don't want to talk about).

If these people are near-strangers to you, tell them to shut the hell up and mind their own business.

[blas87]

If it makes you feel better, my boyfriend was so late to our movie date last night that tickets sold out and we ended up having to go to a midnight movie and couldn't go out to eat afterwards, we may not even be able to go out to eat tonight, I bought him a little box of chocolates and TRIED to make him some cookies (but since I'm a worthless cook, I burned them) and he just laughed at me.

I've been pretty upset with them since last night. At least I tried!

[Boozy]

If a boyfriend had ever laughed at me for trying to do something nice for him, I'd have kicked him to the curb.

Sometimes it really IS better to be single.

[Darrien]

The only time I even say that phrase is when said friends are complaining to me that they are alone. That is all.

[Greenday]

Cookies!? Where!?

[blas87]

He did eat some of the better cookies and he did offer to share some of his chocolates with me, even though I bought them for him and was a little taken aback by sharing.

I think I set myself up for it. I've never really had a boyfriend on Valentine's Day before and I got too excited and tried to plan everything out and make it perfect. It doesn't help when you're dating someone who thinks Valentine's Day is a day from Hell.

Edit: They weren't homemade cookies, just so no one thinks I spent all day slaving over baking. They were those cookies you buy from Wal-Mart that are all ready to just get placed on the sheet and go into the oven. Bf and I were talking while they were baking and I forgot that cookies don't take that long to bake.

[Depot Denizen]

I'm one of those people who does hold a belief that there is someone for everyone. After my first ex and I broke up I was single for a year and a half before finding my current girlfriend by accident. I was pretty miserable being alone, until I learned that you really do have to enjoy being by yourself and enjoying the company of yourself and your friends before you can find the right person. I'm not saying it works for everyone, and it sucks being lonely, but being single isn't as bad as some make it out to be. That's why you have hobbies. You have a lot more free time when you're single, and no committments or responsibilities to your SO. Once you're in a stable, serious relationship you have to trade some of that freedom for the benefits and downfalls of the relationship.

~Josh

[Slytovhand]

While what DD says is true(ish), you have to want to be in a relationship. Which is quite different to wanting to have someone with you.

People have occasionally tried to throw the cliche's at me, but I hate them very much.. which they soon learn! Of course, when they ask "But don't you get lonely?", and I tell them "No", they get confused. It's the way I am, it's the way I was taught to be. I prefer my own company. Occasionally having someone there with me could be cool... but certainly not all the time - I'd need my space and...oh - freedom too much. If people don't understand not getting lonely, I am equally confused with people needing to be in a relationship.

Once you've worked yourself out and are happy with who you are, you don't need to have anyone 'in your life'... which is probably the best time to enter a relationship. Relationships should be built on desire, want, love etc, not because you need to have that other person there.

Blas, I hope he was laughing with you rather than at you. You burn my cookies, sure, I'll laugh.. cos it's not important (WHAT??? Did I just say cookies aren't important????). Yes, the thought is important, but it's not something to be upset about.


Oh, if someone says "There's someone out there for you", you can easily respond with other trite cliches - like "Somewhere, there's a bullet out there with your name on it " (yes, I have a nasty streak ) Besides - them being out there doesn't mean you'll ever meet...of they aren't already married, or whatever... (besides, you mean there's really some girl out there who's so desperate she'd put up with my shit??? hahahahaha). I'm not desperate...so I'm not willing to just get into a relationship cos it "I'm supposed to".