You should be happy you're single...

[guywithashovel]

I find it a little surprising that so many of the other participants here have trouble with people badgering them about their relationship status. People very rarely ever ask me whether or not I'm in a relationship, or when I'm going to get into a relationship, or anything like that. Maybe all the people I'm around see me as unfit for a relationship. (Nah, probably not)

Right now, my singlehood is a little depressing for me. I actually have met a few individuals who I would like to persue relationships with, and who I honestly think would welcome my persuit, but I don't do it. This is for two reasons.

1. I'm still a little awkward about these things (which is pretty pathetic, seeing as how I just turned 27).

2. I just finished graduate school, and I am now looking for a job in my field. I don't know if I'm going to have to get up and move away in order to work in my career field. I am trying very hard to find something here in my area, but I may not find anything here. I may end up having to move somewhere else for a job. I don't want to get into a relationship and then have to end it because of a relocation. Maybe I'm being a little too obsessive about planning my life out, but I really don't think it would be practical to start a relationship when I don't know where I will be six months into the future.

I really would like to find someone to settle down with. I would love to be able to go through my day knowing that there is someone out there thinking about me in that special way. Oh well.

[Flyndaran]

Not every relationship needs to result in a potential life-mate.

[smileyeagle1021]

Oh, the only people I hate more than the people in relationships telling me it's better to be single is the people who are single who say things like "well, I prefer being single anyway"
well, fuck you. Some people do better single. And they do have valid arguments, you have more time to do what you want to do, you aren't committed to anyone, etc... but, for people like me, the whole point of having things you enjoy to do is to have someone to share them with, so having all this time to do shit is meaningless... and yes, I'm happy for those people who can be happy single, but please don't try to convince me that I'm one of you.

[tabbyblack13]

I have had the same discussion with my coworkers. None of them can understand that I want to be single. I live in very small mining town and I don't want to get involved with any of the local families. No one raised here ever leaves. It is also the fact that I have plans on going to other companies and going to other place. I might even be going other countries in the future. I don't want to have to think about another person's career or family.

It also doesn't help that I will do what I want to do. My Mom didn't want me to go to college is SD but I did. I am a very independent person by nature and I cannot see myself having to depend on someone.

[Shangri-laschild]

Oh, the only people I hate more than the people in relationships telling me it's better to be single is the people who are single who say things like "well, I prefer being single anyway"
well, fuck you. Some people do better single. And they do have valid arguments, you have more time to do what you want to do, you aren't committed to anyone, etc... but, for people like me, the whole point of having things you enjoy to do is to have someone to share them with, so having all this time to do shit is meaningless... and yes, I'm happy for those people who can be happy single, but please don't try to convince me that I'm one of you.

Sometimes, they are saying that to try to convince themselves that they really are ok with being single even though they wish they weren't. Sometimes there are other reasons. I'm mostly ok with being single. Currently I'm seeing a therapist, working on fixing some things that make me unhappy about myself. Before this last year or so, I didn't really take time to focus on me and taking care of myself. I would love to have a boyfriend. But I also think I need to be single for now so that I can work on myself more. I'm mostly content with being single and if anyone tells me I need someone, I'll tell them so. But yeah, every so often, I really miss having someone. Sorry you've had people try to convince you that you should be happy being single but I don't know that that's what everyone who has said that meant. In your case, I could be wrong but hopefully not.

[blas87]

You know what really burns my ass? When all of your SO's friends are single and they say really crude off color things like "That's too bad you have a girlfriend, otherwise we could be scoping out girls right now."

Yes, one of my bf's acquaintances said that at the bar the other night.

Unfortunately, I took that one out on my bf when I should have taken it out on the other guy. Fortunately we don't see him often, he is extremely annoying...one of those people who doesn't have an indoor voice and has absolutely no brain to mouth filter whatsoever.

I have never, ever heard of a girlfriend saying to her taken gal pal "Geez Cindy, it's too bad you have a bf, otherwise we could be scoping out hot guys right now and taking strangers home and fucking them!"

My friends are all happy for me that I've finally found someone decent. That's just too bad that some guy friends have to treat their friend being in a relationship like his life is over.

[Boozy]

You know what really burns my ass? When all of your SO's friends are single and they say really crude off color things like "That's too bad you have a girlfriend, otherwise we could be scoping out girls right now."

At least your boyfriend's friends recognize that his relationship with you is an impediment to cruising for girls.

I have an ex-boyfriend whose friends did not consider that an impediment at all. And neither did my ex.

So count your blessings.

[Seshat]

Bf and I were talking while they were baking and I forgot that cookies don't take that long to bake.

Baking tip: use a kitchen timer. If the oven doesn't have one built-in, there are cheap timers available in most grocery stores (at least where I live), usually in the same aisle as flour and other baking ingredients.

[Rapscallion]

You know what really burns my ass?

Flames about waist high?

Rapscallion

[blas87]

Hahaha, good one Dad!

Seshat, my stove/oven unit is so old that it does not even have a timer. It has those knobs to set the temperature to preheat and if you want it to bake or to broil.....yeah, it's ancient.

So anything I make anything in the oven, I have to keep my own time..

[AdminAssistant]

Well, and with cookies, it may take 8 minutes, it may take 12 minutes - you don't really know. When I'm cooking with Mom I'll ask "How long does this have to cook?" she'll usually reply, "Until it's done"

[Giggle Goose]

Not every relationship needs to result in a potential life-mate.

This is true, but I don't want to waste my time with something that's not long-term. If I wanted to just have a "fling," I wouldn't commit myself to anyone.

But to each his/her own, I guess.

And I'm sorry to whoever has to deal with any snide comments. If someone tells me they're single, I figure it's none of my business whether it's by choice or not. Unless they offer up the information, but even then I know people could do without my "advice." When I was single and someone told me something like that, I just tried my best to brush it off, as annoying as it was.

[Slytovhand]

You know what really burns my ass?

Sitting on a hot stove?

(are we keeping this going??? )

[Seshat]

Seshat, my stove/oven unit is so old that it does not even have a timer. It has those knobs to set the temperature to preheat and if you want it to bake or to broil.....yeah, it's ancient.

Well, and with cookies, it may take 8 minutes, it may take 12 minutes - you don't really know.

You can buy kitchen timers at grocery stores (at least here). Just cheap little clockwork or battery-powered things.

Also, you set the timer to the minimum likely time, check the food then and guesstimate when you'll next need to check it and reset the timer to that, check the food, guesstimate, rinse, lather, repeat.

[AFPheonix]

The microwave has a timer function that I use when I bake, too. Cell phones will do it, too. All kinds of stuff will beep at you at an agreed upon time apparently