My in laws think I'm their errand girl

[sophie]

They seem to think that I'm here just to run errands for them because they live next door. I could go in labor at any time but that does matter to them.

My husband and I have one car, you know the car that he needs to drive to work. My in laws have two cars but they want me to take the bus to go buy the more butter how the hell does that make any sense at all! "Oh but I'm tired" you're tired try being me for the day then you will know what tired is. "Can you do this for us or that for us?" Do it yourself!


My husband has tried to talk to them but it's like talking to a wall. We're moving after the baby is born.

[HYHYBT]

Weird, especially that they don't have you use one of their cars.

[sophie]

Both are trucks that I can't drive, but they regularly ask to borrow ours. We don't let them then they get pissed, they think they should be allowed to use our car as they please while we pay for insurance and everything.

[Kuari]

Your in-laws are assholes, plain and simple. I'd ignore them as much as possible until you are able to move away from them, and then cut as many ties as you can once they aren't next door to you.

[Andara Bledin]

Use the word "no" liberally and firmly.

They're taking advantage of you and won't stop until you refuse to let them long enough that they get the idea that you're not their doormat.

Asking to use your car when they have two perfectly good ones of their own? No.

Asking you to take the bus to get something when they can drive to get it? No.

Don't give them reasons. Just say No and keep saying No and when they ask why not, tell them because you said No and it's not open for discussion.

I mean, unless they're paying for your house or they gave you a liver or something, they're being selfish assholes.

[Tama]

Just remember, "no" is a complete sentence.

[cindybubbles]

It seems as though they want you to be their mommy. Therefore, if they continue to act like children, you and your husband should treat them as such.

[blas87]

My boyfriend's grandma is back from Arizona for the spring/summer, and she lives across the street from him. He shovels her driveway all winter while she isn't there and does the sidewalk part, and he mows her lawn every week in the spring/summer, but she'll take any opportunity to voice a way he can be more helpful towards his family. For instance, his family was having a cookout last summer at his parents' house, and I guess his grandma commented that the grass was too long, and he should be mowing his parents' lawn for them. ON TOP OF working full time with overtime (like I was/still do) and taking care of her stuff as well as his as far as lawn/yard stuff.

I guess it might just be a generation thing where younger people waited on older people hand and foot. A lot of my older relatives think nothing of spouting off how my cousins and my brother and I should be "doing more" for our parents and relatives, yet it's not like we don't have busy lives and full time jobs or families.

[HYHYBT]

Stupid question, perhaps, but if she's not going to be home until spring anyway, why shovel snow off the driveway?

[Andara Bledin]

Keeping it clear might be a local ordinance for things like meter readers.

But I don't know how that works in places that have weather.

[sophie]

Some towns/cities have rules about clearing your drive way. Ours has a "no dead grass" one, they fined people for having dead grass....in November.

[drunkenwildmage]

For us, We have 24 hours after the last of the snow to clear it off. Ironically enough, they city will enforce that law, but will not clear off any of the sidewalks that they are responsible for.

[blas87]

We have the 24 hour sidewalk rule too, at least I think it's 24 hours.

Pardon my idiocy earlier, I meant to say he snow blows, not shovels.

I don't think people need to by law do driveways, but sidewalks or anything that is city property, you do.

Thankfully, there is no sidewalk at my parents' place, but my dad is too lazy to shovel the driveway and too cheap for a snow blower. Usually I end up doing it, but getting pissed off at the snow after a few minutes and throwing the shovel at the mailbox.

[TheHuckster]

I don't think people need to by law do driveways, but sidewalks or anything that is city property, you do.

Where I live, you only have to clear your driveway if it is what leads to the main entrance to the house. If there's another entrance that uses a walkway, you only need to clear that. You also have to clear a path to the mailbox or mailslot if it's not on the road.

You are responsible for the sidewalk in front of your house, and I believe you do have to at least shovel the section of driveway between the sidewalk and the road. Basically, anywhere there's pavement between the sidewalk and the road needs to be cleared.

[sophie]

We gave my inlaws my husbands old car(we don't want to ship it when we move) completely free of charge, put new tires on it, got it detailed and got it registered to them. Now they're complaining that if they drive it they'll have to pay for gas. THATS HOW CARS WORK!! I'm so done, these last two week scant go by fast enough.