Public proposal fails

[Ginger Tea]

Just watched a clip show that had about half a dozen marriage proposals get turned down, mostly at basket ball events, though one was filmed by a friend in the mall near where they met one year prior.

Now as the thread says fail's it's safe to say none of the women said yes, also it wasn't doing a follow up on them either to find out why, it was just a filler segment on what is normally nut shots.

I don't on the whole think the women were in the wrong to bail out on live stadium audiences leaving the man to feel foolish in her wake, as he did put her onto undue pressure.
Perhaps each would have said yes under more subtle circumstances, well cept one where it looked like he might have said something he shouldn't have before she slapped him and stormed out of the seating area, possibly along the lines of "your sister meant nothing to me, all the time I was thinking of you, that's how I know your the one." her mood did turn quite quickly during his inaudible speech.

I don't think it's fair to bring your other half into the middle of a sports arena, especially one that is filmed and propose, in movies it's always a tearful scene followed by a yes and the crowd erupting regardless of the venue, but at the end of the day you are making a scene, but in reality how long between the question and the answer?

Thoughts ...

Edit: the food court one

[flybye023]

I don't have anything against them. Wouldn't be my cup of tea but I don't mind seeing them happen to others either.

I remember reading an article somewhere that basically said if you're going to do a public proposal, make damn sure you know what the answer will be already. In other words, you and your significant other have already pretty much decided and the proposal is just a formality. It further stated that anything less is basically a manipulation by putting public pressure on the person being asked.

[ExRetailDrone]

I think public proposals can be great under the right circumstances. You really need to know how the person you're proposing to will react. They might say yes under other circumstances, but if they're not all about being the center of attention, they just might say no for you embarrassing them. For example, before my husband and I officially got engaged, we had been talking about it for a while and it really was just a formality. However, had he tried to propose like that guy in the food court, I think I would've walked away, too, because I hate being the center of attention and having undue pressure be put on me. If you don't know for sure that your partner will handle that ok, then I think it's best to keep it more personal rather than turn it into a spectacle.

[Greenday]

I'd ask my girlfriend to marry me in public if I was absolutely certain she would say yes, already said yes and we want to mess around and do it again in public, and it was at a proper event (Like an Edmonton Oilers game. She loves the Oilers more than any other sports team.).

A lot of times, I think the marriage failures are staged they are so obnoxious.

[LewisLegion]

If it's already prearranged what the response will be, I don't mind public proposals. As a surprise when the preposee doesn't know what's about to happen, I consider such a proposal an incredibly douchey thing to do. You are putting a tremendous amount of pressure on someone who may want to think about things, discuss it, or just isn't ready to take that step. If they say no to the public proposal, THEY look like assholes in public and the proposer is humiliated. So they often say yes even if they don't mean it, then drop the engagement later on which causes its own problems.

Even knowing without a doubt how my girl will answer, I cannot say I would EVER do a public proposal...not even a simple one with just friends in the room. It would be a private moment just for me and her.

[Ginger Tea]

Some comments on similar videos were screaming staged, but just watching a clip from god knows how old footage with no follow up, who's to say.

But an already engaged couple proposing again on a basketball court at half time, attention whore?
A genuine proposal is one thing, but a public re-enactment of a sealed deal, no thank you.
I don't think there is a middle ground of "oh hey let's get engaged at the half time show at the semi finals." that to me says "oh by the way would you like to be my wife, but not tell anyone I proposed to you by asking you to wait 3 months to say yes, but we'll only do it if you accept my proposal now."

[evilfarmer]

I honestly got broad sided by my husband asking me in front of about 150 of our friends. However it was at a reenactment event that we love and we had been talking about getting engaged so he knew I was ready. He is just very very sneaky and surprised the hell out of me..

[s_stabeler]

really, it depends on the proposee. If they would either appreciate or not mind the iherent spectacle of a public proposal, then fine. ( albeit only do it if you know what the answer will be) If they are shy, or for whatever reason would not like the spectacle, then propose in private.

and yeah, I agree with the people criticising proposal 're-enactments'- it's unnessecary.

[Gravekeeper]

I'm pretty meh on the idea, because it adds an extra layer of pressure to the person being proposed too. Come on, honey, you don't want to dissappointment 10,000 other people! It really puts one person on the spot and has a built in public shaming if they say no.