People who only call you when they need something

[Crazedclerkthe2nd]

A friend of mine is involved with this girl who, while quite attractive, is not all that great a friend. You see, she only calls my friend when she wants something (and no, NEVER that!). Usually she is wanting money or for him to run errands for her or apartment sit while she's gone somewhere and so on and so forth.

Every time she calls, without fail, she has some kind of request. She never just wants to talk or hang out, she always needs something. I've told my friend he needs to cut the cord on this one but he seems so determined to score with this girl he hasn't been listening.

I've had people before who only call me when they are after something. These kinds of people don't stay friends with me for long. A friend doesn't do this. At least not all the time. A friendship is give and take on both sides, not just one person ordering the other around like a manservant.

[jackfaire]

He is on her hook. Next step being the sexless innkeeper

[Andara Bledin]

Put it to him like this: He's giving her all the milk for free, so why should she bother buying the cow?

^-.-^

[Canarr]

+1 to that. Sometimes, refusing a little makes one more interesting - or, interesting at all. If you put it that way, maybe he'll listen.

[kiwi]

I wouldn't call that a friend, I would call that a user.

[HYHYBT]

Is it only *calling* that's like that? Does she communicate in other ways when she isn't after something?

I rarely if ever call *anyone.* Some people I see regularly in person; others I keep in contact with mainly by email and such, but I only CALL somebody if either an extended period goes by where they are otherwise unreachable, or else something is wrong. (I will generally *answer* if others call me, but that's about it.)

Probably not what's going on in your case, but worth considering.

[jackfaire]

+1 to that.

Your on Google+ Now aren't you?

I had a friend I bumped into that I hadn't seen in a long time then we ate dinner and caught up and tried to reconnect. I tried. Told him to come by hang out whatever.

During dinner I had mentioned I was in the process of looking for a new roommate. So a month suddenly goes by and nothing but the day he gets evicted he shows up on my doorstep wanting a place to stay. Yeah I had to turn him away.

[Canarr]

Actually, no. It's just that a +1 weapon is slightly better than a regular one

Love the jump to conclusion there: "Hey, you said you needed a roommate, and I just got evicted! It's a perfect match!" - "Yeah... why were you evicted, again?"

[jackfaire]

Meh I had taken in people in similar position in the past but when he showed up I had a roommate and a family of five crashing in my living room.

My problem with it mostly was the audacity. Yeah i said we should hang and you conveniently lose my number for a month until suddenly you need a place.

[DrFaroohk]

We had a couple of "friends" like that, it was a bro and sis combo, they'd come over to "hang out", except really "hang out" meant "Check my facebook". And "check my facebook" meant surfing around online looking at the stupidest shit about the shittiest bands and smoking all our cigarettes. I never knew that to "check your facebook" involved going through youtube, gmail, wikipedia...

Finally whenever we saw one of them pull in we pulled the plug on the internet, acted all hapy to see them and then "Awwwww the internet must not be working! Such a shame!" Or if we were feeling generous we'd let them use the shitty compaq with XP on it to surf the net.

Suddenly we stopped seeing them.